But, it's my blog so I am going to share anyway. I have stated before that I don't have a relationship with my mother. She is abusive and mean and all of the things I hope to never be. My grandparents estate was settled at the end of last week and this was a letter I received today.
23 October 2009
My dear Lindy,
I had devoutly hoped to be able to pay off your student loans in full. This is still a possibility, but I want you to understand my feelings on the matter at this time.
Since you have lived in the house, rent-free, for a year, +,-, now, I consider that to quite a chunk of change that has come your way. In the normally appropriate course of events, that should have been rental income for me, obviously split with you aunt, but it is an income loss for me. Consider your "good fortune" as the first installment in what I hope to give you. I do hope and plan to fulfill my obligation in this regard.
My request to you is this:
I want all of my good jewlery to be returned, anything Eric gave me. This includes but is not limited to my Mikimoto pearl studs, my diamonds (studs) and anything else Eric was kind enough to give me. I hope that you keep the earrings Val and I gave you, as they were a gift in good faith.
Perhaps when you are a mother yourself you will come to understand better any mistakes I made, and forgive me. I love you with all of my heart, and my door is always open to you.
You have all my heart,
Isn't she loving? I would also like to say that the jewelery was given to me during the years when I was in college when she didn't give me anything for Christmas. It was always given in April or something with an apology of "sorry I didn't give you anything for Christmas, have this". You should also know that she is inheiriting a sizeable estate and my grandparents made it clear to everyone before their death that they wanted her to pay off my student loans. Unfortunately, that was never put in writing.
I don't care about the money. I know my treasure isn't on this earth. It just breaks my heart to see what kind of person my mother is. There is so much more to this story that I wish I could share on this blog, but I do have to draw a line somewhere.
To all of you out there who have good mothers, thank them and hug them. They are a treasure and you are so lucky.