We had a wonderful Wednesday night dinner this week. I really should have taken pictures! The shrimp and grits were a huge hit. Matt, one of our good friends from Sunday school and a close family friend was there with us. After supper, Matt, JD and me were talking about dating and how you can stray so far away from your values and what is important to you. This led me to explain my standards or "deal breakers".
1. no use of tobacco products
2. good money management skills ( wealth doesn't matter, but being able to manage what you have is important)
5. involved in church
6. does not consume alcohol
7. no pre-marital sex
That's my list. I don't compromise anymore. I used to compromise on some of these issues and I had some pretty cruddy relationships. I know that these may come as a shock to my family and friends and may be more than my Dad wants to know about. Sorry, Dad! Though I think you might be proud of what I stand for.
You might notice that physical attributes aren't on this list. For me, physical attraction is only about 5% of what draws me to someone. It's amazing how attractive someone can be when you see eye to eye on what matters to the two of you.